How the dating game is played

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October 17, 2002

It’s called the Dating Game for a reason. Just like normal board games, this one includes rules, cheating, winning and losing, you know the normal stuff.

However unlike a board game, the rules are not written down for your perusal on the inside of a box and sadly do not come attached to your love (lust) interest. Not that we are experts by any means, but the rules as we see them are a little complicated. The first thing that needs to be determined is whether to give out the number or to get the number. For us, this all depends on who the person is and if you want to see them again.

If you don’t like them, it’s a good idea to get their number because that way you can choose whether or not to call them. If you doubt this opinion, ask yourself this: “do I really want someone with a scary grill (or whatever his/her flaw was) calling me every five minutes, to the point where I have to change my number?”

If you are interested in the person, then you have two options. If you don’t want to deal with the stress of when to call, give them your number. If you enjoy being the one who does the chasing, get their number.

If you do get their number, when is the right moment to call? Most have heard about the three day rule, where you must wait three days after first meeting before making second contact. This is slightly archaic and slightly obscene.

If you are interested in someone, why wait that long? Really, it should depend on when you want to talk to them.

If you are going to call the next day, call later at night, not 2 a.m., but well into the evening.

Be warned, they may already have plans, but you can always make plans for another night. This will also get you on their mind even while they are out with their friends.

If you call the second day, we suggest a daytime approach, calling in the afternoon hours. You may or may not catch them without plans for the evening, but it’s worth a shot. Either way, don’t call if you aren’t available. The worst thing you could do is just call. Why would you call someone you don’t really know just to talk about your day? Of course none of this goes into e-mail, but that’s because e-mail is the cheap way out. Making a phone call takes moxie, sending an e-mail is weak.

Just make sure once you establish your own rules, you don’t break them. If you decided to call in a couple of days, but in the last minute decide to call and had nothing to say, that is a bad idea.

The rules of dating are more complex than your average board game, but if you play the game right, you can end up the big winner.


How the dating game is played was published on October 17, 2002 in Opinions

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